Loyalty

The dictionary defines loyalty as, "the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations".  As I think about the qualities that I feel are important in people I deal with: Honesty, respect, trust, and loyalty are what always comes to mind.  Without these things I think it is impossible to have a functional interaction whether it be a relationship or friendship. 

The things that I've mentioned aren't things that are developed overnight.  It may take years before those things can be successfully developed between individuals.  And it can only take a moment or act to tarnish any one of those things.  Your actions should be a direct reflection of these things.  I rather you show me than tell me since, "an action speaks louder than words" in the world of Olu.

Not enough people place as much weight as they should on the actions they do or the words that come out of their mouth.  In the end all you have is your word to support your character and unfortunately there are many people who's word means absolutely nothing to me. 

To be loyal to someone does not mean that you are completely submissive to them in any way, shape, or form.  In my mind it means that when stuff hits the fan that you'll be in the corner to support them or, if need be, call them out on their actions.  I'm abou tready to drop the mic and walk away, until next time.

Know your role and accept who you are

For awhile I think I've been denying who I am as opposed to accepting the person that I have grown up to be.  I like to shop, I like to travel, and I enjoy being outside of my house more than I enjoy being inside.  But for some reason when others mention those same things to me I try to deny those characteristics that describe me. 

Just as I should accept my role, I am learning to accept others for who they are.  People will show you who they are, you just have to be willing to listen to them and not make excuses for who they are.  I'm gradually realizing that certain personalities will not work with me being who I am.  I understand that they say that opposites attract but I can only accept a person being so far too the left of where I am. 

People need to know their role in your life. Some people are meant to be major players or even game changers, and some are just meant to be place-holders for the people who will have meaning to your life.  I think I'm tired of the place-holders. I do appreciate them for their time but as my mother told me this week " you need to up the stakes since you're not getting any younger".  I tell you words by Felicia are a great thing. You gotta love her truths and her views on life.

Since my summer session is beginning, and I think I'm coming down with a possible cold, I'll cut this one short so that I can rest and be ready for my 5 AM wakeup call. Swanky.